Hands up if you have been in a stinky relationship that drained the life out of you emotionally, mentally and physically? Mmmm yes, I have had many of them and I now thank God daily for not experiencing them anymore!
Thanks to self-growth, and taking a whole lot of responsibility for my life, my life is in a completely different place to where it used to be. I have moved forward and for the past 7 years, I have had the complete honor of sharing my life with one amazing human being, who is now my husband.
Of course, the journey to where myself and my husband have come today as a couple was far from easy, we have had our ups and downs and our life’s challenges, that’s for sure. However, the people we have both grown into and become is what makes the relationship such an amazing one to experience today.
What I had not learned in the past is that loving, respecting, and honoring your spouse actually makes them grow into the person God had created them to be and they will be far from the person you fell in love with, to begin with, because they will grow into far better person then you could ever imagine!!
When you first get together in a relationship, the person you are dating will not be the person you are dating in another 8, 12, 14, 20 years from now. We all change, we all grow and we all mature on our journey which leads to thinking and feeling differently about your relationship now then you did when you first got together.
Unfortunately for a big percentage of the world (50% of marriages now end in divorce) so them first loving feelings that were once alive from the beginning, will have now changed to hate, disgust and zero patience because everything their partner does or says constantly annoys them. The love has turned slowly turned to hate and killed off the relationship and respect altogether. Instead, what has been grown, has come from a breeding ground of negativity that has been feed for many months, or years. Satan planted the seed of doubt in their mind and they developed it into a fully grown plant of rotten fruit. Which means he succeeded in killing off any happiness you had left because after all, he is only happy when you are miserable, doubting yourself and killing all hope within you.
So, how do we break free from Satan keeping us bondaged and from ruining our relationships? And how do our spouses truly develop into who they really should be? We do that through LOVE, HONOR, AND RESPECT, of course.
Which means the more you love, respect and honor you give to them, the more they develop into truly astounding partners because you are allowing them to be respected and supporting their growth and they are supporting yours. By doing this you are kicking the negative breeding ground out the front door and never breathing life into it, to begin with. Which takes all power away from Satan and helps you two move into a more beautiful relationship that gives room for you both to grow and bloom on a beautiful journey together that will be full of happiness and wonderful memories made.
The moment you feel any kind of intolerance popping up with your spouse, notice it, address it and take charge by concentrating on what is good about them instead of feeding that bad. Take the time each day to make a mental note of what is great about your spouse and keep increasing that mental list each day with more and more things, if you need to write it down on a piece of paper, then do so. If you need to say it out loud after you have written it then do so. The more power and emotion you inject into this exercise the more love you are targeting against the negative, and it has no chance to breed.
The outcome of using this powerful exercise will lead you and your spouse to having an amazing relationship and watching them develop right before your eyes as the amazing human being God created them to be, it just took your love, respect, and honor to water that plant to bloom.
I know, I have witnessed it at first hand with my own husband and watched him go from a nervous, unconfident, shy, man who couldn’t speak up, and who suffered from panic attacks and couldn’t make a decision without calling his mum. To become a strong, independent man who amazes me every day as he stands strong in his power and faces full responsibility for his life and invests into his skills constantly to climb the career ladder in construction.
Wow!! Where did the once shy guy, who wouldn’t say boo to a goat go? … He grew, because of his wife became his cheerleader, and let love rule over everything.
Try it yourself, and gift yourself the relationship you both deserve.
Until next time,
God Bless You!
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